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August 8, 2020 • Sticky Post
|Do you find yourself wanting to make a change in a certain area of your life but continually struggle in this area? For some of us it can be related to our weight and the endless diets we start and stop, for others it might be cutting back on the wine in the evening, endless hours spent binge watching Netflix, etc. |
Long lasting change will always come down to the ‘story’ that we choose to cling to, the beliefs we hold subconsciously about what we are worth or deserve, and how we ‘speak’ to ourselves each and everyday. I want you to check in with yourself and see if your inner voice is one of f.e.a.r. [false evidence appearing real] or one of faith.
Here is how you can tell the difference.
If your inner voice is leading you by fear you might be saying:
✅ It’s too hard.
✅ I’ll never be able to do it.
✅ I will fail just like before.
✅ That’s easier said than done.
✅ They’ll judge me.
✅ I’m too old and far gone.
✅ I have so far to go why bother.
If your inner voice is leading you by faith you might be saying:
✅ This is hard but I will face it.
✅ I’ve made mistakes in the past but this time things can be different.
✅ Asking for help takes strength and i’ll get it if I need it.
✅ It takes courage to start and take action.
✅ The power to change is mine and i’ll take full responsibility for that.
Which ‘voice’ is the one you hear the most? If you aren’t sure just take a look at those areas of your life that you don’t really like, those parts of you that you want to change, but have always struggled to do so. To really get the most out of this I’d like you to do an activity that I have my clients do and then share with me what you come up with. Obviously you’ll only do this if you are serious about change and know within you that there is more to the life you are currently living but you just need a little help getting there. You will need to do this when you have some quiet time where you won’t be distracted.
I also want you to do this without judging yourself. This is key because if you judge yourself you will limit that part of you that wants to heal and bring you a new found awareness to your habits, patterns, and addictions. Remember, we are all human and we do things for a reason. Many of my clients have a history of physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse. I tell them all the time that your past trauma is manifesting itself in some really ‘crazy’ ways in your life. This provides them with an explanation as to why they have engaged in certain behaviors that they really hate, and paves the way for the ability to let those things go and choose different.
So, all I want you to do is grab a sheet of paper and make a numerical list from 1-4. I want you to write down three questions that you want an answer to. Your fourth question is going to be, “Who am I and what is my purpose?” Here is an example of a question I did the other day: “Why do I feel the need to stay in this position at Fairmont High?” and what came up for me was pretty profound. I’ll share that a little later on. Once you have your questions written down you will take 5 deep belly breaths and as you exhale you will ask yourself the question. Then just allow yourself to sit with the silence and see what comes up. You can take as long as you need for each question, but I promise that the answer will come if you can sit with yourself.
If you do this I’d love to hear what came up for you. In regard to the question I had asked myself, the answer(s) that came to me was scarcity and fear. I was afraid that if I left a current situation that I might not ever get that kind of opportunity again. Now that I am aware of why I was holding onto this ‘thing’ in my life that gave me the freedom to let it go. I know that there will always be opportunity for me and that I would never be able to experience ‘better’ if I chose to settle. I have freed myself from staying somewhere from a place of fear and scarcity.
If this is something you’d like to find freedom from then reach out to me here and we can set up a time to talk about your goals. I can then share how I can specifically help you.
Born Again Fitness
Online Fitness, Nutrition, and Lifestyle Coach
September 18, 2019
I am coming to you on a very rainy day where I live. I hope that where you call home things are a little more pleasant. I actually don’t mind the rain but I know that for some it can be an issue.
On to why I am writing you today. I was thinking about my own journey over the last 20+ years, the highs and lows, and how far I have come. I look back to all that I overcame and remember at one point I never thought I would.
Can you relate to that?
Do you catch yourself thinking that the life you have right now is all there will be for you and it won’t get any better?
How does that make you feel to read that or even be the one speaking that to yourself on an almost daily basis?
I want to tell you a story about what finally helped me to turn my life around and get serious about losing weight and improving my health.
You see for years I struggled with being obese, not overweight, but obese. I used food as a way to cope for as long as I can remember. As a child that is really the only ‘drug’ you have access to, so that became my way to escape all the painful emotions that life brought.
For those who don’t know I came from a pretty abusive childhood that fed into my emotional and binge eating disorder. The majority of my clients have also come from this background of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse. Many have experienced all three, but that is for another story.
It’s crazy when I look back and think about my life then. You would think that just being miserable with myself would have been enough of a push to change but it wasn’t. If you struggle with your weight then you know what I’m talking about. I was literally a prisoner in my own body and I hated it, and if I’m being honest, myself. I hated that I allowed myself to get so big [nearly 300lbs] but I felt I was so far gone that there was no hope for my situation.
Just the thought of trying to lose weight felt so overwhelming that it would typically cause me to procrastinate on taking action to change or when I did try to change I would ultimately end up sabotaging myself because deep inside I didn’t believe I would be successful or worthy of a better life. I had come to the place where even though I was miserable I chose to settle.
I remember the looks of disgust I would get from some people. How I was treated differently just because of my weight and how that made me feel so small. Just doing simple tasks were made that much harder because of my weight. My self-esteem and self-worth was shot, but I desperately tried to hide it daily behind a fake smile. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I had some moments of happiness, but it didn’t last. In those moments that I found myself all alone all I felt was incredible self loathing and hopelessness.
I had tried every diet you could think of…cabbage soup diet, medifast, dexatrim diet pills, fasting, low carb, no carb, low fat, and the list goes on.
None of it worked long term and it always came back to one thing.
My weight, and quite possibly yours, was never about the food.
It never was and never will be.
Think about it.
How many diets have you been on? how many times have you lost weight only to gain it back? if it was as simple as a dietary change or exercise plan you probably wouldn’t be reading this right now.
Now onto how I made my change.
The best thing that ever happened to me was slipping down a flight of stairs and straining a muscle in my back. Most people wouldn’t think so but it most likely save my life and put me on a journey of change.
You see at the time I didn’t know I strained a muscle, but later on that night while laying in bed I felt this intense pain on my left side when I took in deep breaths.
I thought I was having a heart attack.
In that moment I cried out to God and said I would change my ways if I could live. I was scared and the thought of death and potentially losing my life finally became more important than any piece of food I could put in my mouth.
The faith based coaching system that I use with my clients today is what I used for myself to finally be able to come to peace with myself, my thoughts, and my body. I was finally able to deal with my emotional eating in a healthy way and stop running from my emotions. I got to that place where I could sit with them, acknowledge them, and allow them to move on without stuffing my face with my favorite jo-jo doughnuts and liter of Coke!
Back then I settled for jobs that I hated but worked because I didn’t think I deserved better, stayed in abusive relationships because I thought I was luck to have someone at my size, and existed. Today I am pursuing my Masters in Social Work, coaching amazing clients, a girls high school soccer coach, and visionary. None of this would have ever been possible had I chosen to stay where I was at. The Godfidence that I have today is directly tied to the work I had to do on myself. You know that part that we all want to skip? that is where the magic is and where you will find out who you really are and what your purpose is in this life.
It is all about addressing the mind, body, and spirit. If you leave out any of these parts of yourself you won’t find the long lasting results that you want.
I went from hating my life to now loving it. From not seeing a future for myself to realizing that I can do anything I want and that the only limit was me. I am now free to dream of the life I want and pursue it having the faith that with God I can do all things.
I share my story with you because I want you to know that if you find yourself in that place of hopelessness you aren’t alone. If you find yourself scared to try again because deep down you feel you will fail or that you aren’t worthy, you aren’t alone.
I get it.
That is why I love what I do. I am already inside my clients head. I know the excuses you’ll tell yourself to not start, how you’ll talk yourself out of doing anything that might be good for you, and even when you will want to quit.
This journey isn’t easy my friend. If you are brave enough to start you are going to have to face some things that will make you uncomfortable, afraid, and want to shrink back in f.e.a.r.
With that being said, I would rather go through all of that then sit back passively while life passed me by and my health just got worse with each passing day. To me that isn’t living, but rather existing and I know for a fact that God didn’t put us here to just exist. He wants you to live your life fully and I truly believe we can’t do that if we are in bondage to anything. At some point we have made food an idol in our lives and we need to address that if we are to be made whole again in Him.
Are you at that place where you are tired of just existing? Do you feel deep down that there is more out there for you than what you are currently settling for?
Don’t be like most people who continue to stay on the hamster wheel and keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome. You and I both know that the answer to your problem isn’t going to be solved with another fad diet.
If you can relate to any of what I said and feel led to reach out to me, I encourage you to do so. I trust God to send to me those He knows I can help and that tug you feel at your soul isHis prompting.
I don’t care where you are at right now physically, mentally, or emotionally. You ARE NOT so far gone that you cannot be helped or get the results you want. All you have to do is take that first, and hardest step, and reach out to me today.
Hit reply and lets connect.
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March 25, 2019
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December 12, 2018
If you’re reading this know it isn’t by accident. You were meant to read this and begin the process of letting go of your limiting beliefs.
You see, far too many of us are walking around with a ‘poverty mindset’ and then wonder why we lack those things we truly desire.
Whatever you are FOCUSING on the most will manifest itself in your life. Do any of these limiting beliefs sound familiar?
🔹️I’ll never be able to afford it.
🔹️I don’t believe I can do it.
🔹️I’ll never lose this weight!
🔹️They just have it easier than I do.
🔹️I’ll always be alone.
🔹️This is my lot in life.
🔹️I’m just not motivated.
🔹️I have no energy!
🔹️I’m just unlucky.
🔹️I’ll start tomorrow. [procrastinate & avoid]
🔹️I’m such a failure.
🔹️I failed before so why try again?
All of these are self-fulfilling prophecies, and the MORE you repeat them to yourself the MORE you will struggle with them. Think of your thought life as a big magnet. Whatever dominates your thinking the most is what you will attract into your life.
There is abundance EVERYWHERE and you don’t have to struggle for the rest of your life.
You can either CHOOSE to believe that you will always struggle or you can CHOOSE to believe that you will OVERCOME.
Let go of those negative, unproductive, patterns of thinking and being. They aren’t helping you and are only keeping you stuck.
Begin today to FOCUS on the life you want. Follow that up with affirmations that reflect the life you want, and then take ACTION.
Yes, it will be hard to do at first. You will want to reject what you’re doing, but in time you will start to accept this new information.
Remember that in order to RECEIVE you must first BELIEVE. ☝️
Do you need to take out some mental ‘trash’ and renew your mind? Are you confused as to where to start and feel overwhelmed?
If so, I want to help you on this journey. I too struggled unnecessarily for a long time. Then one day I got tired of how my life looked and how I was living. I was tired of not being happy, using food to cope, and missing out on really living life. I had allowed myself to become a prisoner in my own body because of the weight.
I had hit my ‘bottom’ and to be honest that’s the best place one can be at times. You’re left with no other choice but to fight or die. I chose to fight and here I am today. I want you to choose to fight as well.
There will be no perfect time to start, so just do it now. You’ll try to talk yourself out of it like you’ve done a million times before. I want you to stop doing that. That is just a tactic used by the enemy to keep you stuck and miserable. Take a leap of faith and trust that God will help see you through this.
Reach out to me today for a phone consultation. I can work with you no matter where you call home. I have clients all over the globe who are finding freedom from those things that used to hold them back. You can be one of them too.
Go here to set up the call that can radically change your life.
Also, be sure to grab my FREE fat loss guide. It also has a sample menu for you to follow.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
November 26, 2018
October 27, 2018
I hope you are having a great Saturday. I was able to get away for some time this morning and go watch some youth soccer matches. It is always a different experience when I can just watch the game and not have to worry about coaching it.
I had an interesting conversation with a mom at this one game. She knows I am a lifestyle/fitness coach and asked me if she could run something by me. I said “sure” and told her to fire away with her questions. She wanted to know why she had such a hard time losing weight and staying on track.
She told me how she starts off pumped up and motivated only to end up feeling flat and deflated within a weeks’ time. She went on to tell me how she felt like a failure because of how many times she has tried to lose weight with little to no success. She has tried Weight Watchers, Keto, fasting, and even used prescription diet pills and nothing worked for her long term.
I told her that it really wasn’t her fault as to why she wasn’t succeeding. I said it really comes down to the beliefs you hold to be true about yourself. You see, anything you find yourself really struggling with in your life can be traced back to what you hold to be true about that thing.
I’ll give you an example of what I mean. Growing up my parents had some very interesting beliefs surrounding money. They had what I call a ‘deprivation mindset’ and like many of us, didn’t know it. I can remember vividly them always saying how they couldn’t afford something or they had to save money for a rainy day.
They were constantly speaking ‘lack’ into their lives when it came to money and they unknowingly passed these beliefs onto me. I grew up with the same mindset about money. I always felt like being financially well off was meant for everyone else but me. This was all due to my programming I received as a child by my well meaning parents.
I have since been able to work through that false belief and no longer hold that to be true. I had to be very intentional to reprogram my subconscious as this is where virtually all our mental blocks reside. Think of your subconscious mind like a tape player, until you change the tape, nothing will change.
This is where this ladies issues with weight loss were taking place. Her subconscious beliefs about herself were keeping her stuck and fat. I told her until she took measures to address those false beliefs she held about herself that she would most likely continue to struggle. Think about yourself. How many times have you tried to lose weight only to hear that voice in your head tell you that “you’ll fail just like last time” or “you won’t be successful.” Maybe you said something different, but the message was still a negative one. These limiting beliefs are keeping you stuck but it doesn’t have to be this way.
Maybe you can relate to this woman’s story that I shared. Maybe your issue isn’t weight at all, but is related to money, relationships, etc. No matter what it is, you can be assured that those areas in your life in which you struggle to change can be traced back to limiting beliefs.
Many of my clients have come from a background of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, so you can imagine how many of them grew up in a very chaotic environment. I tell these clients that I work with that their behaviors are just a manifestation of the abuse that they endured. The good thing is they survived the abuse and now they can change the dysfunctional behavior that is now causing problems in their lives. That could be emotional eating, binge eating, sex addiction, using alcohol to escape, etc.
If you have followed me for any amount of time then you know my story. I am a survivor of sexual abuse, weighed nearly 300 pounds, and was miserable for a big portion of my life. I was always dieting and trying to lose weight, but I didn’t want to be healthy. I was desperate. I was tired of the self-loathing that I felt towards myself and I was sure that if I was able to lose the weight I would finally have the happiness I was so desperately craving. By following a detailed plan, one many of my clients now use, I was able to get off the weight loss roller coaster and lose nearly 100 pounds and have kept it off.
Just like we are told to ‘renew our minds’ in Romans, I was able to do just that. That is the biggest thing that helped me to get to where I am today. I had to work on changing those limiting beliefs that I had about myself. I had to ‘change the tape’ and put in a new one. I put in a new tape that told me I could do anything I set my mind to do and that I was worth it. Friends, the process isn’t an easy one, but it was the best thing I ever did for me and those around me. I became a better son, brother, and dad because of it.
So, what are you struggling with? What is that one thing you truly want to see change in your life but you keep running into resistance? You can be sure that you have some limiting beliefs surrounding that. Just know you aren’t a failure if you haven’t had the success that you want. You just need to take a different approach to your situation. If you’d like to know more about my coaching program and how I can help you to change your own ‘tape’ and finally have the life you want please reach out to me today.
Go here to get started. ⤵️
July 27, 2015
“I can’t stand to look at you”
“You make me sick”
“You can’t do anything right!”
“You never see things through”
“This time won’t be any different. You will fail just like before”
“You’re so fat”
“What a loser”
How long would you allow someone to remain in your life if they spoke to you this way? You would remove them very quickly because most of us can recognize this as very abusive behavior.
It is emotionally damaging and over time causes great harm.
June 7, 2015
I don’t care what your past looks like, where you came from, what you did, or what someone said about you. If you want to change your life for the better you CAN.
You don’t have to become what was spoken over you. You’re not a loser, no good, worthless, shameful, etc. You are a child of the Most High God! All that matters is what He says about you.
It’s not easy to release all of that baggage you’ve been carrying around. It’s a process that takes TIME but if you are willing to do the work you can find freedom.
May 20, 2015
And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If you have faith as a grain of mustard seed, you shall say unto this mountain, Remove from here to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.
Math was my MOUNTAIN. As you know I’ve been asking for prayer in regard to this and for a positive outcome. I believe that the enemy will place people in our path to try to block us from becoming who we are truly meant to be.
March 26, 2015
The older I get the more I truly realize what matters in life. It isn’t about acquiring more “things” or making more money. You can have all the “toys” and money in the world and still feel very empty, lonely, and unfulfilled.
The one thing that truly motivated me to change my life was my last “typical” job I had 9+ years ago. I worked in construction and would get up at 6am so I could be to work by 7am and get off at 6pm or 7pm that night. I would do this Monday through Friday and every other Saturday. The job paid well, offered insurance and provided security.