Are you led by faith or f.e.a.r.?
August 8, 2020
August 8, 2020 • Sticky Post
|Do you find yourself wanting to make a change in a certain area of your life but continually struggle in this area? For some of us it can be related to our weight and the endless diets we start and stop, for others it might be cutting back on the wine in the evening, endless hours spent binge watching Netflix, etc. |
Long lasting change will always come down to the ‘story’ that we choose to cling to, the beliefs we hold subconsciously about what we are worth or deserve, and how we ‘speak’ to ourselves each and everyday. I want you to check in with yourself and see if your inner voice is one of f.e.a.r. [false evidence appearing real] or one of faith.
Here is how you can tell the difference.
If your inner voice is leading you by fear you might be saying:
✅ It’s too hard.
✅ I’ll never be able to do it.
✅ I will fail just like before.
✅ That’s easier said than done.
✅ They’ll judge me.
✅ I’m too old and far gone.
✅ I have so far to go why bother.
If your inner voice is leading you by faith you might be saying:
✅ This is hard but I will face it.
✅ I’ve made mistakes in the past but this time things can be different.
✅ Asking for help takes strength and i’ll get it if I need it.
✅ It takes courage to start and take action.
✅ The power to change is mine and i’ll take full responsibility for that.
Which ‘voice’ is the one you hear the most? If you aren’t sure just take a look at those areas of your life that you don’t really like, those parts of you that you want to change, but have always struggled to do so. To really get the most out of this I’d like you to do an activity that I have my clients do and then share with me what you come up with. Obviously you’ll only do this if you are serious about change and know within you that there is more to the life you are currently living but you just need a little help getting there. You will need to do this when you have some quiet time where you won’t be distracted.
I also want you to do this without judging yourself. This is key because if you judge yourself you will limit that part of you that wants to heal and bring you a new found awareness to your habits, patterns, and addictions. Remember, we are all human and we do things for a reason. Many of my clients have a history of physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse. I tell them all the time that your past trauma is manifesting itself in some really ‘crazy’ ways in your life. This provides them with an explanation as to why they have engaged in certain behaviors that they really hate, and paves the way for the ability to let those things go and choose different.
So, all I want you to do is grab a sheet of paper and make a numerical list from 1-4. I want you to write down three questions that you want an answer to. Your fourth question is going to be, “Who am I and what is my purpose?” Here is an example of a question I did the other day: “Why do I feel the need to stay in this position at Fairmont High?” and what came up for me was pretty profound. I’ll share that a little later on. Once you have your questions written down you will take 5 deep belly breaths and as you exhale you will ask yourself the question. Then just allow yourself to sit with the silence and see what comes up. You can take as long as you need for each question, but I promise that the answer will come if you can sit with yourself.
If you do this I’d love to hear what came up for you. In regard to the question I had asked myself, the answer(s) that came to me was scarcity and fear. I was afraid that if I left a current situation that I might not ever get that kind of opportunity again. Now that I am aware of why I was holding onto this ‘thing’ in my life that gave me the freedom to let it go. I know that there will always be opportunity for me and that I would never be able to experience ‘better’ if I chose to settle. I have freed myself from staying somewhere from a place of fear and scarcity.
If this is something you’d like to find freedom from then reach out to me here and we can set up a time to talk about your goals. I can then share how I can specifically help you.
Born Again Fitness
Online Fitness, Nutrition, and Lifestyle Coach