“I can’t stand to look at you”
“You make me sick”
“You can’t do anything right!”
“You never see things through”
“This time won’t be any different. You will fail just like before”
“You’re so fat”
“What a loser”
How long would you allow someone to remain in your life if they spoke to you this way? You would remove them very quickly because most of us can recognize this as very abusive behavior.
It is emotionally damaging and over time causes great harm.
Now I want to flip it around. The person making these harsh statements is YOU. You say these things and more to yourself every day, multiple times a day. You wouldn’t accept such treatment from an outsider, yet you will tear yourself and not give it a second thought.
This is something I spend quite a bit of time on with my clients who I coach. It has become second nature to most of us to make snide comments about ourselves that undermine our real self-worth, rob us of our personal power, and keep us STUCK in self-sabotaging behaviors.
Pay attention to what you are speaking into your life. Your words are very powerful and shape your beliefs you hold about yourself. You care for your kids, spouse and family…it’s time to show yourself the same compassion you show others.
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