What we do to avoid facing the truth in our lives
April 1, 2018
April 1, 2018
Okay, this is gonna be deep so take a deep breath. I was sitting here just thinking about all the stuff we go through in order to avoid facing the TRUTH.
Look at your own life and really think about it. Get RADICALLY honest with yourself and you’ll see what I am talking about.
Somewhere along the way it was modeled for us by our primary caregivers (no blame, just facts) that is was not SAFE to be honest. We watched our parents disown their self/feelings and in turn sent the message to us that it wasn’t safe to feel/share certain things. That we need to just, ‘go with the flow’ and not rock the boat. You may now find yourself sending these messages to your kids. This is how the cycle of abuse and dysfunction is passed down from generation to generation.
I believe that we all deserve the TRUTH and that by owing our “truth” we can, and will be set free from the demons who torment us.
Let me give you some examples of things I have heard from clients, witnessed, or was my truth for sometime. Some of these may or may not resonate with you.
“I can’t share with my wife/husband that I am unhappy or my needs aren’t being met. I don’t want to hurt them.”
So instead of being honest you go outside the marriage and have an affair or numb with drugs, alcohol, work, etc.
“I was sexually molested as a child but it wasn’t that bad!”
Yes, it truly was that bad and sexual abuse changes a person on so many levels. Instead of dealing with the truth of what happened to you then you may become promiscuous, abuse drugs, alcohol, have failed relationship after relationship. These can all be traced back to the abuse in your childhood.
“I was abandoned by one or both of my parents either emotionally, physically, or both.”
The result here may be that you abandon yourself. Accepting treatment that you don’t deserve OR you don’t allow anyone to get close to you. You may push them away if they get too close so you don’t have to experience being abandoned all over again. You may also choose partners today that are emotionally unavailable or who ultimately abandon you.
These are just a few and you can plug your own experiences in here as well. I learned a long time ago that in order to heal from my own issues I had to face the truth of what happened to me or what I was doing.
The truth will set us free. Stop running from it and allow yourself the freedom to begin speaking your truth.
You know that you can’t run from it, drink enough, have enough sex, snort enough, smoke enough, eat enough, etc. You can’t do any of that enough to make the pain go away.
Do what you must to be set free. I’m taking on new clients and can help you with this.
Anyway, these are just some of my thoughts. Let me know what you think and feel free to shoot me a message if any of this hit home with you.
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God bless you today.