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May 8, 2017

How to have clarity for any goal you set

If you’re having difficulty following through on those things you want to do, or are struggling to reach your goals, these tips might help you. I have used them myself and with my clients, with great success.

  1. Vision: You must know what the outcome will be; you must be able to ‘see’ what it is you want to accomplish.
  2. Focus: You must focus on what it is you want to see happen and not what you don’t. Far too many people start out trying to accomplish a new goal, and waste all their energy worrying about the worst-case scenario. Put that energy into focusing on the changes that you want to see occur.
  3. Belief: Work on changing your internal beliefs so that they line up with your vision. If you don’t believe you will be successful, why would you be?
  4. Physical Health: You must take care of your temple by moving and eating a diet rich in veggies, fruit, lean protein choices and healthy grains. If your body is polluted with ‘junk’ all the time it will make it difficult to function at an optimal level.
  5. Choice: In every moment, you have the power to choose. Make choices that connect with your vision.
  6. Self-talk: The words you speak become the house you live in. You must be aware of your negative self-talk and do your best to end that habit.
  7. Be Real: Be a ‘truth-seeker’ and do those things that align with who you are at your core. Be authentic, and give yourself the freedom to be who you really are.
  8. Stinking-Thinking: You must have a growth mindset vs. a fixed mindset. Learn that mistakes are okay and a vital part of the learning process. They are opportunities for you to ‘get it right’ the next time, not feel like a failure. No one learned anything from getting something right the very first time.
  9. Action: You must act, but make sure it is action that is moving you towards your goal, and not just action that is keeping you busy. Learn to be move by your dreams and not your fears.
February 21, 2017

4 Fitness Myths That Must Die

There are a lot of fitness myths out there that really need to go away. There is no legitimate basis for these and they are continuing to be spread by folks who may have good intentions, but are misinformed.

  1. Eating eggs are bad for you: People believe that eating eggs, or the yolk for that matter, will drive up your cholesterol. This simply isn’t true as the body has its own natural “checks and balances.” The more cholesterol you eat, the less your body (liver) will produce. The vast majority vitamins and nutrients are in the yolk, so eat it!
  2. Eating smaller, frequent meals daily, stokes the metabolism: This is absolute rubbish and I wish it would go away. The amount of meals you eat per day is as unique as you are, but it will not have an impact on your metabolism or help you magically burn more body-fat. If you prefer to eat 4-5 meals per day as it helps you adhere to your diet, go for it, but it isn’t necessary. The thermic effect is the same if you were to eat 3 meals @500 calories for a total of 1500  calories or 5 meals @300 calories for again, a total of 1500 calories. Many studies have shown that there is little to no effect on metabolic rate or calories lost.
  3. High protein diets are bad for you: Most research shows that there is no real evidence to show that high protein diets are harmful. In fact, diets higher in protein help people to feel fuller longer. lose weight and give the muscles what they need to repair and rebuild.
  4. Eat less and move more to lose weight: While this sounds great, it isn’t very helpful for long term weight loss. There are many factors that will help one to lose weight and keep it off. The foods we eat will influence how and what we eat. If you’re eating a bunch of processed junk, don’t be shocked if that is what you are constantly reaching for. Drastically reducing your calories and exercising more can only be sustained for so long. Eventually, you will find yourself gorging on your favorite treat and giving up exercise altogether. Cutting calories can also have a negative impact on your metabolism (metabolic rate), making it very difficult to lose any weight. You need to eat for your specific fitness goals and this means fueling your body with the right amount of protein, fat, and carbohydrates.

 

January 16, 2017

How to avoid a plateau

You start a new diet. You see some fantastic results pretty quickly. The struggle, of course, is then maintaining this weight loss. Changing eating patterns for a short period is different than sustaining them. This is the area people seem to have the most problems with. Once frustration and boredom sets in, once dieters have reached that plateau, it becomes so easy to just give up in disappointment.

Dig Down Deep

When you are in a rut, don’t give up! That’s the worst thing you can do. Boredom might be leading you back towards your old habits, but fight back! What’s vital to overcoming this sense of apathy is to set goals. Not just in the beginning of your diet, but throughout it. Goals should be specific, yet flexible. They should allow for some minor setbacks, and yet encourage you to keep moving forward.

As an example, say your goal is to lose 50 pounds. Great! But how are you going to get there? Is it by eating a specific amount of calories? Perhaps by eating enough servings of fruits and vegetables? Are you going to try to work out a few times a week? Be accommodating to yourself. Realize that you are not perfect and you might splurge on something tasty every now and again. Don’t view this as diet failure.

Be sure to set S.M.A.R.T goals. Make them Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time Based. This will help you to have very clear, detailed goals.

Keep it Fresh

One of the biggest things that can be seen as contributing to diet boredom is a regimen that is so specific; it eliminates certain things from your diet, such as a low carbohydrate diet. These diets are not inherently bad, but it limits the variety of food options. So do your best to keep it fresh.

When struggles of tediousness come, counterattack! Change the types of food you eat. Don’t have the same dinners every week. Try new things out. It might take a little extra effort in the kitchen, but creativity in the kitchen can be fun. One way to do this is to splurge on a new healthy cookbook. Try out a new recipe once a week. Also, get your family involved in healthy cooking. Perhaps each family member can have a night of the week, not only to help cook, but to help pick out a recipe. You can also do a healthy recipe exchange with friends.

Choose variety
Above all else, a diet is nothing without combining other aspects of healthy living. Drink plenty of water, as always. This will keep you from munching throughout the day. Also, eat more fruit, veggies and protein. Be sure to find something outside of the gym that also brings you joy.
Finally, concentrate on fitness aspects as well. You won’t lose weight effectively if you do nothing to train your body. Hit the weights, start walking, and find activities that you like doing. You’ll be more inclined to stick with it if you do.
December 20, 2016

Tips to help you release worry and anxiety

How many times have you caught yourself in bed, staring at the ceiling, ruminating over the day’s events. Maybe you’re worrying about the next big meeting you have, asking that new person out or stressed that you won’t be able to retire until you’re 99 years old.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Millions of people around the world suffer from anxiety in one way or another. The only difference is the severity of the anxiety and the related symptoms.

Here is some science backed ways for you to help alleviate your own anxiety issues. I have used some of these myself and with my clients. They really work, but only if you do the work and use them daily.

  1. Don’t fight your thoughts. You may catch yourself thinking some horrible things or wondering if you’re legitimately crazy. Remember, our brain is constantly at work and we can’t control the thoughts that pop into our head, but we can control how we respond to them. Don’t judge yourself, but just observe your thoughts as if you were at a movie. You could say, “oh, that is interesting, I’m thinking about slapping Sally.” We all have ‘crazy’ thoughts from time to time. Don’t judge yourself and just observe and then allow them to pass by like floating clouds.
  2. Breathe. Yes, just breathe. When you become anxious you begin to take very shallow breaths, causing your body to tense up. I want you to imagine you’re blowing bubbles when you feel anxiety coming on. Just take a nice deep breath in through the nose and exhale through the mouth, pretending that you have that little wand in your hand and you’re blowing bubbles. This is an effective technique to not only calm your nerves but your mind as well. I want you to focus on the sound of your breathing each time your mind wants to go back to whatever it was you were anxious about. Stay in the moment and be present!
  3. Look for the evidence. Those things that you’re anxious about or fearful of happening, most likely never will. I want you to look back at all those times you worked yourself into a tizzy over something you thought would happen. How many times did those things come true? Very seldom if at all, right? By “looking for the evidence” you will be able to remind yourself that this thing I’m worried about most likely won’t come true and I know this based upon past events.
  4. Schedule time to have a meltdown. Yep, you read that right. Set a specific time every day to allow yourself to obsess over everything you think will go wrong; after that you must go about your day. So, set aside 30 minutes to allow yourself to ruminate over those things you are anxious about and after that go about your day. If you find yourself beginning to go back to those things you are anxious over, remind yourself that you already did that for today and you’ll have your 30 minutes tomorrow to be able to think about it. Overtime you’ll find that you stop wanting to think about it at all.
  5. Pray. Take it to the Lord and cast all your cares on Him. The problem is most Christians ask God to take these things from them, but often take them back. You must pray, believe that God has taken these things from you and leave them at the foot of the cross.
  6. Valerian root. This little herb has been around for a long time and has been used to treat insomnia as well as anxiety. Valerian root has been shown to increase the amount of a chemical called gamma aminobutyric acid (GABA) in the brain. GABA helps regulate nerve cells and calms anxiety.
  7. Get up and get moving! Research has shown that physically active people have lower rates of anxiety and depression than sedentary people. Exercise may also improve mental health by helping the brain cope better with stress. A recent study showed that those who got regular vigorous exercise were 25 percent less likely to develop depression or an anxiety disorder over the next five years.

What are some ways that you have been successful in dealing with anxiety? Share them with me in the comments section.

October 21, 2016

I want to work with you: how my coaching program works

I’ve gotten some questions on what I do exactly and how my coaching program works.
 Am I a fitness coach? life coach? psychologist (No, but working towards my LCSW)? wizard?
 
The answer is: Yes.
 
When I first started out in the fitness industry over 10 years ago I was a personal trainer, majoring in Kinesiology.
 
Throughout the years I noticed something with virtually all of my clients. They were coming to me saying that the wanted to lose weight, but were really seeking something else. For many it was to be free from the bondage of food, to get over a bitter divorce, work through abuse issues from childhood, address low self-esteem, etc.
 
What I quickly realized was I could write the BEST fitness program, but the results would be short lived. I found out by doing my own inner work, that we must address what is driving the behavior or one will only experience short term success. It’s like slapping a band aid on a gaping wound and expecting everything to be okay.
 
It won’t.
 
Fast forward to today, and my coaching program has radically changed. I’m now pursuing my Master’s degree in Social Work (MSW) along with my CADC (drug and alcohol counselor).
 
My coaching program addresses the mind, body, and spirit. You see, it is easy to lose the weight, but it is very hard to keep it off.
 
Most people set out with the good, but often misguided intentions at the onset. You need to be thinking about how you’re going to keep the weight off once you lose it.
 
This is going to involve a change in mindset, behavior (habits), addressing some ‘stinking thinking’ (negative self-talk) identifying triggers, and changing your relationship with food.
 
I use the tools that helped me to come down from nearly 3 bills, change my thinking, create new habits, improve my self-esteem, set and achieve goals, and free me from the bondage of food with my clients.
 
If you’ve ever struggled with any type of food dependency, or any addiction really, you will understand what it is I’m saying.
 
You may use the food to avoid, numb yourself from feeling unpleasant emotions, eat because you’re bored, stressed, happy, etc.
 
You are in bondage to food, and it is my belief that all addictions are a spiritual issue.
 
This is why I believe that we must address all aspects of the person (mind/body/spirit), and not just via an exercise and meal plan. Although, I do recognize that for some people that is all they need, but for the clients I work with, it goes beyond that.
 
Maybe you feel hopeless.
 
You’ve tried to lose the weight and have been unsuccessful. You think that you’re a failure and will always be this way. Maybe this has now affected your home life, personal relationships, and work. You have difficulties with your mate, you no longer feel attractive.
 
It is possible that you can’t seem to find a significant other because you don’t feel worthy. You find yourself not being able to keep up with your kids or grand-kids. Perhaps your self-esteem is in the toilet, you’re depressed, and feel tremendous anxiety.
 
The good news is you always have HOPE through Jesus Christ.
 
No one is too far gone to be saved. If I was able to change, I know you can.
 
It isn’t going to be easy.
 
It will be very emotional.
 
It will be uncomfortable.
 
But all of the above beats remaining in your current state for another minute.
 
If you’re willing to look at those things that are continuing to hold you back you can be free.
 
If you’re willing to step out of denial and look at your situation honestly, you can be free.
 
If you’re willing to shed that victim mentality, you can be free.
 
If you’re willing to finally take action, you can be free.
 
If you’re ready for long lasting change, I want to be your coach. I will help guide you along this difficult journey. You won’t be alone and I’ll help provide you with the tools that you need to be successful.
 
Feel free to reach out to me today for a consultation. You can be local to me or anywhere in the world. I have clients all over the U.S. and the U.K.
 
October 21, 2016

You must address your ‘stinking thinking’ if you want to be free

If you’re reading this know it isn’t by accident. Far too many of you are walking around with a ‘poverty mindset’ and then wonder why you lack those things you desire.

Whatever you think about MOST will manifest itself in your life. Do any of these sound familiar?

-I’ll never be able to afford it.
-I don’t believe I can do it.
-I’ll never lose this weight!
-they just have it easier than I do.
-I’ll always be alone.
-This is my lot in life.
-I’ll never do ___________.
-I’m just unlucky.
-I’ll never become ___________ so I will settle for where I am.
-I failed before so why try again?

All of these are self-fulfilling prophecies, and the more you repeat them to yourself the more you will struggle to do anything. You must stop telling yourself these lies!

There is abundance EVERYWHERE and you don’t have to struggle for the rest of your life. You can either CHOOSE to believe that you will always struggle or you can CHOOSE to believe that you will OVERCOME.

Let go of those negative, unproductive, patterns of thinking and being. They aren’t helping you and are only keeping you stuck.

Begin today to visualize the life you want. Follow that up with affirmations that reflect the life you want, and then take ACTION.

Yes, it will be hard to do at first. You will want to reject what you’re doing, but in time you will start to accept this new information.

Remember that in order to RECEIVE you must first BELIEVE.

Do you need to take out some mental ‘trash’ in your mind? Address your stinking thinking? Tell me about it in the comments section.